So, unless you have been living under a rock then you know I am recently engaged to the most perfect human being in the world for me. I have become one of “those” girls who can’t stop talking about it, staring at her ring, or taking “ring selfies”. Ha! Sorry, not sorry. Seriously, I am just that darn happy. I feel so blessed God brought us together and wanted to share more about our story and the engagement. So… you’re warned now this will be pretty lengthy.
We are actually an outcome of the social dating app Bumble. I know, right? I had a guy friend tell me about the app over last Christmas break and so I set it to Birmingham, Alabama just to see who was there… thanks Charlie! Low and behold I came across this cute guy who I recognized from my home town, but I had never met. We matched and exchanged numbers shortly after and I can recall our whole conversation that night and what I was doing. I’ll spare you the boring details, but we spent the next 48 hours blowing up each other’s phones talking about everything under the sun. He invited me to dinner. I almost backed out 50 times. First of all, I had been studying for my FE exam and had a zit the size of Mars right in between my eyebrows #embarrassing. Second of all, online dating? It’s sketchy and I wasn’t sure if I should. Boy, I am sure glad I did! He thought I was beautiful despite my huge zit that we named Edith (lol it was that bad).
Random fact: We realized our families were actually really close when my sister and him were young and my mom/his mom/aunts were still friends. We found lots of pictures of him with a little bowl cut at my sister’s childhood birthday parties. I’m saving those for revenge.
From our first date on, we both just knew that this was it. I don’t think we talked about knowing until a few months later, but God definitely placed us in each other’s lives for a reason. He sent me Judson during a season of stress and darkness. Judson changed everything and showed me everything a godly man should be to a woman. He is my light in the dark. To this day my favorite moments are the little things he does for me like letting me go first in the door (even walking into his apartment or getting out of an aisle of seats). It seems simple, but he does anything and everything to put me first and show me true love and compassion. He has let me bawl my eyes out and pitch a fit about things just because he knows I need to get it out…even though it makes him uncomfortable. My happiness is his priority and his is mine. We see no flaws in each other and no judgement in each other’s pasts or mistakes in the future.
He is undoubtedly my soulmate. One of my favorite songs right now puts it this way:
Heaven made your hand
To compliment my hand
Like Heaven made my heart
To compliment your heart
Heaven gave you love
To compliment my love
God has taught us so much in the past year and some odd months. We have grown in our relationship, professionally in our careers, and in our relationships with the Lord. We firmly believe we couldn’t have done it without each other or Him. It’s us three for life.. and Zac the pup of course! (None of this is to say we have a perfect relationship, we both want to strangle each other sometimes because we are polar opposites.. but it works and we work through the kinks.)
“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
– Mark 11:24 ESV
Through 21 days of prayer at my church, I made my personal prayer focus for guidance in finding the right Godly man and to show me what a true relationship was that glorified Him. A month or so later, I met Judson. During the next time 21 days of prayer rolled around, I prayed for guidance on us looking toward marriage. He showed up big time and proved we are truly each other’s forever. It is truly amazing what He will show you and answer through prayer.
I believe our relationship is proof of what can happen when you let go and let God take the wheel and show you His plans from the get go. Our plans do not work. It is all in His perfect timing.
I say all of this to say singles ladies, wait for the one. I went through relationships with some good guys, but they weren’t very good boyfriends. I thought that was normal and that’s how a future marriage would be.. I would always come second and not be cherished. SO COMPLETELY WRONG. DO NOT THINK THAT!!! The one designed for you will not push you aside or be uncaring. You will do anything for each other and keep Jesus at the center.
If you are still with me, congratulations because that was a lot to read. The proposal:
For the past six months we have been riding around different areas looking at houses just to see our options when we are bored. We had decided on McCalla, Alabama, because it is in the middle pretty much of both of our jobs. We were never very excited about any of the neighborhoods though, until we saw one that I just fell in love with and he knew it. On a Friday he told me he wanted to go ride back through there that night and if you know me then you’ll completely expect my reaction to this. I basically pitched a fit wondering why we just HAD to do this when it was going to most likely be dark and didn’t make sense and blah blah blah. He puts it this way- I made everything as difficult as possible that night. I blame it on a stressful work week.
Anyways, he took me to the lot I wanted to build on and told me that is where he wanted to build our home and life together but that we needed one more thing and got down on one knee. I’m sure he said something else, but honestly I was in a state of shock that it was finally happening for the next 24 hours. The following Monday we put a contract on the lot/the house we picked to be built and this Friday we got the approval from the contractor that construction will start soon!
(His brother had to hide in the bushes to snap this Ha! Thanks Christo!)
Can we say that God is sooo good? We haven’t wasted anytime obviously, but we needed to jump on it because of lot availability and it takes six months to build. Everyday I thank Him for the perfect man, the perfect ring, and the perfect future house. It’s like all of my dreams have slowly come true and we are so humble and blessed. I know life will not be rainbows and butterflies and marriage will be hard work, but we are in it together as a team and I can’t wait to marry my best friend!
Thanks for sticking through to the end friends! I’d love to know your love/engagement stories!